Two Queens and a Wedding Cake

    I wasnt going to comment on this issue again but a few people have asked me so I think I will.

As you know this week the Supreme Court overturned a Colorado Circuit court ruling that a Colorado Business had to make a cake for a gay couple.  Basically the Supreme Court said the Colorado Court was not unbiased in its opinion.  Everybody is saying this is a victory for the church and religion and a loss for gays and equal rights.

Everybody is a loser on this issue.

        I have watched three different interviews with the gay couple.  They didnt live in Colorado full time.  The wedding was not in Colorado, it was to be for a reception there for their friends.  They claim to be devastated, embarrassed and humiliated by the refusal.  Honestly, those are completely unqualified feelings as far as I'm concerned.  The baker just said no.  He did not make fun of them, he did not put a sign on the door that he refused to make them a cake.  He didnt call all his friends and tell them about the gay couple.  He said no and gave a reason valid to him.  This was not a slap against gay rights the man does not actively campaign against them.  He simply said because of his religious beliefs he did not want to make a cake.  They should have acted with dignity and gone on to the next place.

     I have also watched a few interviews with the baker.  While I think religion is the single most bigoted and racist institution allowed to legally operate.  I believe this man was well within his rights to refuse to bake a cake if he lives what he believes.

     When we ordered our cake, We happened to order a cake from someone who had never made a cake for a gay wedding or even had any gay friends.  She actually made some unintended off color remarks about fudge filling and such while we were ordering the cake.  We played along, ordered the cake and everything else went off without a hitch.  Since the wedding she has seen us a couple times in the store and will stop working and walk around with us chatting.  She asks us questions about being a gay married couple and seems genuinely interested in our lifestyle.

    Had we acted offended and made an issue about her off color humor, we would have missed the opportunity to allow her to see that gay a couple can be just like any other couple and the chance to make a new friend.  It was an unintended opportunity to enlighten someone who otherwise had no idea what gay people were like and to fight the stereotypes portrayed in the media. 

    There were so many things wrong with this case.  The gay couple should have not been so sensitive and used their brains and realized this was not a discrimination of the gay lifestyle, but rather one individuals deep belief in his faith.  I dont understand why they would want to pay someone for a service when he doesnt approve of their lifestyle anyway.  They made the wrong choice to involve a lawsuit. 

     The state of Colorado and the courts failed to recognize that in the one of the reasons people immigrated here to begin with was freedom of religion.  They failed to protect that. 

     The baker.  Who may be a devout christian failed to make a decision without influence by the church.  Any sane individual should be able to recognize when undue influence in being placed on your decision making by an institution. 

     Unfortunately what people are going to remember about this is not that gay rights took a hit from the supreme court, but two gay men had a temper tantrum about not getting a pretty wedding cake. 
Just makes the rest of us gay humans look bad.